Fruitful Embraces: Sexuality, Love, and Justice

By Evelyn Eaton Whitehead and James D. Whitehead
Bloomington, IN: iUniverse, 2014

Reviewed by Virginia Ramey Mollenkott 

Fruitful Embraces: Sexuality, Love, and Justice“Sister Monica” is the pseudonym of a Catholic nun who for years has devoted her life to ministering with transgender people.  I respect her tremendously.  So when she gifted me with this book, I knew it would be very significant – especially now, as the Catholic community continues to face major crises concerning bodies, sexuality, and gender.  How to make amends for priestly pedophilia? Should women be ordained?  Should priests be permitted to marry?  Can married people use birth control devices without blame? How can the church honor the presence of disabled or undocumented people?  Should LGBT’s be welcomed into the community?  Topics can’t get much more urgent than these.

Then I noticed the distinguished careers of the authors. Evelyn Whitehead is a University of Chicago developmental psychologist whose focus is adult spirituality.  Her husband, James Whitehead, is a Harvard theologian who studies the integration of religion and culture.  Working together for over 45 years, this team of “cradle Catholics” is perfectly suited to bring biblical imagination to bear upon the body-related crises of the church.

Not that this is a book for Catholics only.  Far from it! The opening discussion of “Christian Sensuality” emphasizes an “erotic attunement” in which “sensuality and justice came together” (p. 11), and the brilliant discussions of friendship and marriage make clear that Fruitful Embraces is for every Christian of every denomination, and for those of other religions (or none) who are interested in the problems that bodies inevitably encounter.

I was particularly struck by the authors’ clarity concerning the major body-identified split in Christian theology, a split that dates from the watershed year of 391 C.E.  In that year the Emperor Theodosius shut down all religious competition to Christianity by banning public sacrifices. Gregory of Nyssa argued that all human beings reflect God’s goodness at their core, and Augustine of Hippo began his career by teaching that all human bodies carry the guilt of original sin.  Clearly, after the Great Schism of 1052, the Western church lost sight of Gregory’s belief in the divine image and became engulfed in Augustine’s doctrine of original sin.  But the Whiteheads favor the vision of Gregory of Nyssa, who believed that all humans, imbued as they are with an indelible image of their God, will ultimately and mysteriously be brought into a final eternal union with their “loving Center” (p. 111).

People who believe in Gregory of Nyssa’s vision are free to welcome all kinds of “outsiders” into the church. The Whiteheads use the Bible’s “dianetic parables and compelling images” to show that all the “others” – “all those who make us uncomfortable – are included in the family of God” (p. 182).  They reframe the concept of fruitfulness to include all “acts of care and compassion” (p. 97), refusing to limit the term to biological procreation.  They uphold male–female equality within heterosexual marriage, rejecting Pope Pius XI’s 1930 statement that such equality is “unnatural.”  And they support marriage equality for gays, lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people.

Understanding that many people are bewildered by the gender diversities of people whose bodies do not match their internal sense of their own maleness, femaleness, or in-between categories, the Whiteheads are fairly thorough in their explanations of transgender terms, issues, and life-experiences, including transsexuals, cross-dressers, intersexuals, and folks born with androgen insensitivity syndrome.  They explain the importance of the American Psychiatric Association’s shift from the term “gender identity disorder” to “gender dysphoria,” the latter term recognizing the intense distress of transgender people but removing the stigma of an implied character disorder or mental illness (p. 170).  Emphasizing the “extravagant paradoxes found throughout scripture” (p. 176), they point out that in human life, “biology is not destiny” and “gender identity is not a conscious decision” (p. 166).

The authors recognize that for Catholics, who live within “an institution… wedded to historical precedent” (p. 185), it can be terrifying to be challenged to make moves never made before.  Yet many Catholic Christians, “their imaginations shaped by biblical convictions, see immigrants, homosexuals, and transgender persons in a new light” (p. 186). Such believers, including the Whiteheads and this reviewer, are praying that the institutional church will find its way through these impasses.  Let us hope that the Vatican and people worldwide will heed this call toward more fruitful embraces.

© 2015 by Virginia Ramey Mollenkott and Christian Feminism Today


Virginia Ramey Mollenkott
Virginia Ramey Mollenkott (1932-2020) is the author or co-author of 13 books, including several on women and religion. She is a winner of the Lambda Literary Award (in 2002) and has published numerous essays on literary topics in various scholarly journals. In 1975, she spoke at the first national gathering of the Evangelical Women’s Caucus in Washington, D.C., and delivered plenary speeches at almost every gathering of the organization over the next 40 years. She has lectured widely on lesbian, gay, and bisexual rights and has also been active in the transgender cause. Mollenkott was married to Judith Suzannah Tilton until her death in 2018, and has one son and three granddaughters. She earned her B.A. from Bob Jones University, her M.A. from Temple University, and her Ph.D. from New York University. She received a Lifetime Achievement award from SAGE, Senior Action in a Gay Environment, a direct-service and advocacy group for seniors in New York City in 1999. In 2017 she was awarded the inaugural Mother Eagle Award. Even in her late 80s, Virginia Ramey Mollenkott continued to use her doctorate in English to share insights with folks who visit the EEWC and Mollenkott websites, and with elderly people in the Cedar Creek Community educational programs. She deeply regretted that her severe arthritis forbade her presence at the social justice protests during the Trump presidency.


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