“Strenuous Tolerance”:  Can we get along when we don’t agree?

Studies in Hermeneutics—Lesson 21

By Reta Halteman Finger

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When I was a child, Sundays were sacred. Church in the morning, a nice meal (usually with meat that wasn’t hot dogs), visiting friends, taking naps, or playing games in the afternoon and evening. One Sunday school teacher told us not to buy anything or eat at restaurants on Sundays, or we’d be making other people work. But since then I have heard little teaching about “hallowing the Sabbath.”

On the other hand, my nephew and his wife are firm vegans—no meat, eggs, or cheese—because of our inhumane treatment of animals. Nor do they use products that use other animal parts. My nephew teaches a college class on the ethical treatment of animals. In our carnivorous society, this is clearly a minority practice.

Sincere people often differ on ideas about ethics, morality, and honoring God. 

Theology and ethics in Romans

In the 50s of the first century, the inclusion of non-Jews into the Jesus-communities of Rome created many problems. (See Lesson 14 for the background of Paul’s letter to the Roman believers.) Rock-solid practices commanded in Hebrew law and observed for centuries by faithful Jews were being ignored by former pagans. Eating meat considered “unclean” under Jewish law (such as pork, rabbit, or shellfish) or any meat not butchered kosher made no sense to these Gentiles, and they saw no reason to set aside special days to forsake work and celebrate Jewish history. If Paul preached a law-free gospel premised on “the faithfulness of Jesus Christ” (Rom 3:21-24), why should they be forced to obey Jewish laws? From a Gentile point of view, these were merely rules of ritual purity set up to keep Jews apart from other people.

But arguments over purity laws soon have ethical repercussion when beliefs and attitudes affect how we treat other people. If clean/unclean food creates a fight, how can believers in a mixed house church eat together and share the Lord’s Supper as a sign of unity? If Gentiles ignore the Sabbath and other Jewish holy days, how can they worship together at all? Hostility, arrogance, slander, and other moral failings must have attended their disagreements.

 “Strenuous tolerance” for major controversial issues

Paul deals directly with these tensions in Romans 14:1–15:13. This text is part of the climax of his letter dealing with ethics. Paul lays out his inclusive theology in chapters 1-11, then shows the Roman believers how to live out that theology with each other in chapters 12-15. And what he says in Romans 14:1-12 proves to be a huge moral challenge for both sides of the conflict.

The “weak” (those who still depend on observing food and Sabbath laws) are unwelcome at the common meal and instead are “despised” by those who eat anything (14:1-3a). Conversely, the observant Jews “pass judgment on those who eat” (14:3b). In 14:5-9, Paul says the same thing about those who “judge one day to be better than another while others judge all days to be alike.” Paul’s ethical solution is for everyone to “be fully convinced in their own minds” (14:5b), while allowing others to be convinced of a different opinion about laws of ritual purity.

Hard as that may be to accomplish, moral implications go even further in 14:13-23. Paul identifies himself with those who assert that “nothing is unclean in itself,” but he insists “it is unclean for anyone who thinks it is unclean.” Therefore, “if your brother or sister is being injured by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love” (14:14-15). Then Paul encourages the observant Jews to obey their own convictions. If they eat against their own scruples, they will be condemned (14:23).

There is a further step in keeping the church unified, one that is radically Christ-like. In Romans 15:1, for the first time Paul calls the law-free individuals “strong” (dunatos, from where we get dynamite) and considers himself one of them. Unlike the NRSV, this verse literally reads, “We the powerful (dunatoi) ones ought to carry the weaknesses (asthenemata) of those without power (adunatoi). Previously, the “weak” were called asthenoi (not strong) in 14:1. This word change suggests that the Gentile position is also the more powerful political and socio-economic position within the Christian community  that Paul was addressing, since conservative Jews had been refugees now returning home with little. This is why the strong must carry the actual weaknesses of those in a politically weaker position. The strong do not need to agree with or approve of the position of the conservatives, but they do need to empathize with them, as Jesus did (see 15:3).

Parallel struggles?

Today people still argue over food or who gets to take holidays off, but not for the same reasons as first century observant Jews. We see these laws as traditions we can take or leave without moral implications. Instead, churches fight over what to do with LGBTQ Christians in their midst and whether their sexual desires are sinful or not, or whether they should be expected to remain celibate or even try to become heterosexual. What has been seen as a moral issue, science has helped us understand is influenced by genetics and not subject to change. There are more varieties of sexuality than we ever knew. Yet our Euro-American culture has a long tradition of granting heterosexuality to be the only normal and ethical option, with any alternative viewed as abnormal and immoral. This cultural assumption is similar to the individual consciences of those Roman Jews for whom eating unclean meat or not honoring certain holy days was sinful and offensive.

According to Romans 14:1–15:6, what really matters ethically is how we treat other people and how consistent we are in living by our own consciences without condemning others who differ from us. The challenge—especially in matters relating to sexuality—is deciding which actions are intrinsically hurtful to others and which are not. We should actively oppose prostitution and pornography, for example, since they are obviously hurtful, especially for women and girls. But, as I have tried to argue in these lessons, same-sex love and marriage should be evaluated by the same moral standards as heterosexual love and marriage.

Can we get along? Questions for discussion and reflection

If we accept Paul’s standards of “strenuous tolerance”* through agape love in this scripture, how can this be worked out on a practical level in communities and congregations where there are divided opinions on LGBTQ issues?

1.  Who scorns and “despises” those with conservative scruples? Who “passes judgment” on those who are more permissive?

2.  What kind of behavior on either side might “cause the ruin of one for whom Christ died”? (Rom 14:15).

3.  Who are the “weak” who need to be welcomed? Who are the powerful ones (dunatoi) who should not please themselves (Rom 15:1-3) but should carry those less powerful and empathize with them?

4.  If Paul’s concept of “strenuous tolerance” is applied to LGBTQ issues within a group of believers in a religious community, what might be the difficulties of applying such a concept to the larger civil society in relation to legislation (for example, non-discrimination ordinances, marriage equality decisions, and beliefs about religious freedom that counter civil rights rulings)?

5.  Are disagreements about abstract ideas or about following or not following ritualistic rules different from disagreements that involve the dignity and worthiness of fellow human beings (for example, historical arguments among Christians about an economy built on slavery or, in our present time, about full LGBTQ inclusion?

6.  Discuss Paul’s rebuke of Peter in Galatians 2:11-14 in relation to the idea of “weak” and “strong”?

*I owe the term “strenuous tolerance” to my Romans professor, Dr. Robert Jewett.  My thanks also to my editor, Letha Scanzoni, for suggesting questions 4-6—as well as her careful editing of each lesson I write.

Note: Find a longer essay on the same topic with more details and suggestions, titled “What Can We Do When We Don’t Agree? Christian Tolerance in Romans 14:1-15:6,” by Reta Halteman Finger, in To Continue the Dialogue: Biblical Interpretation and Homosexuality, edited by C. Norman Kraus (Pandora Press, 2001), pp 209-222. (PDF copies for personal use only can be obtained by email from the author, Reta Finger, through the EEWC-Christian Feminism Today office.)

Reta Halteman Finger
Reta Halteman Finger is a long-time member of EEWC-CFT and is a past Southeast representative on the EEWC-CFT Council. She holds a Ph.D. in theology and religion from Northwestern University, masters of theological studies from Garrett Evangelical Theological Seminary and Northern Baptist University, and a master of education from Boston University. Reta retired in 2009 from teaching Bible (mostly New Testament) at Messiah College in Grantham, PA. She lives in Harrisonburg, Virginia, and since her retirement from Messiah College has been devoting her time to writing and speaking projects, as well as some part-time teaching at Eastern Mennonite Seminary. For fifteen years, Reta edited the Christian feminist magazine, Daughters of Sarah (no longer published), and is a frequent writer and reviewer for Christian Feminism Today. Using the search box on the homepage of our EEWC-Christian Feminism Today website, you’ll be led to many of her online articles.


  1. I have some different understandings of Rom 14. I will just start with two.

    1) As far as I can tell, the only group called weak are those that eat only veggies. Paul does not call Sabbath keepers weak.

    2) Rom 14:14 is a verse that is often mistranslated. The key word is koinos which means common or in this context profane, not unclean. The opposite of profane/common is holy.

    TLV Rom 14:14 I know, and am persuaded in the Lord Yeshua, that nothing is unholy in itself; but it is unholy for the one who considers it unholy.

    LITV Rom 14:14 I know and am persuaded in the Lord Jesus that nothing by itself is common; except to the one deeming anything to be common, it is common.

    That is, there are two overlapping distinctions in Scripture, (A) clean and unclean and (B) holy and profane. Something that is unclean cannot be holy, in order to be holy it must be clean. Lev 10:10 You are to make a distinction between the holy and the common and between the unclean and the clean. What the (assumed well-meaning) mistranslation of koinos as unclean does is oversimplify these distinctions.

    If Paul, a Jew, had declared that nothing is unclean then he would have been violating Torah and would not have been able to claim in Acts 21:24 that he did keep Torah. But what he is saying is that if someone believes some food has been profaned (made unholy), then for that person it HAS been profaned and he should not eat it. In other words, we are to respect another’s conscience in regards to food they choose to eat.

    I have more, but wait until I see if you wish to discuss further.

  2. I believe you are right about the Greek word KOINOS meaning “common.”
    But I think Paul’s point is still the same: If your brother or sister is being injured by what you eat, you are no longer walking in love. I agree with you there.

    Are you saying that Paul expects the Gentile believers in Rome to observe Jewish food laws?

    • Those are not JEWISH food laws . That was YHVHs rules , in the beginning, for the healthiest way to eat for everyone , but especially commanded for His followers. Pig, shellfish and the rest are garbage feeders and contain toxins in their bodies. Pork has not changed since creation nor the rest.
      He didnt die on the cross so that we can eat a ham sandwich, but to take away the PENALTY of Sin and Death. That was the reason for Him saying “It is finished.” THATS WHY HE CAME.
      The stuff He says NOT to eat was never declared as food. SO IT ISNT FOOD. Read His list of what to eat and not to eat.
      The Jews are not His Chosen People. You need to watch 119 Ministries.. THE LOST SHEEP and Passion for Truths.. IDENTITY CRISIS. That will give you the exact meaning of CHOSEN people that most people have no truth about. No such thing as Christians and the Jews as we have been lied to about. We are ONE in Christ if we follow Him and should do as He taught. Dietary law, His Feasts (never called jewish feasts)no xmas , easter , valentines, etc. He NEVER taught those things and is NEVER in them! He says not to do the TRADITIONS of men.
      When He commands something, we better do it duch as the right day for the sabbath which is Friday sundown to Saturday sundown. Show me where He changed it. He DIDNT. The unholy catholics did. In fact , YHVH says that He will know His people because they keep His Shabbat. Sunday is NOT Shabbat.
      You know why our oceans are filthy?? Its because people are eating all the bottom feeders, the shellfish and things without fins and scales that were CREATED for the purpose of being garbage cleaners. Thats why. When people eat those, they are eating toxins. Same with pig. Eating toxins.
      Study it out and see who ISRAEL is by watching those two videos on youtube. Whoever reads the Bible wont totally understand it till they study those, then they will understand totally His Plan.

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