February 2, 2015
Writing for The Advocate, Eliel Cruz points out that it’s not just straight men who act in misogynistic ways.
“Every time women have tried to tell us queer men their experiences, we’ve brushed them off — or worse, we’ve silenced them. Take, for instance, the brouhaha over the trans slur. Gay and bisexual men essentially told trans women to shove it. Like children, we stomped our feet over wanting to use a slur that is cast daily against trans women, often in violent situations. Serria Mannie’s much-debated Time magazine piece over gay men appropriating black female culture had valid arguments. Then not only were her points brushed off, but also gay men attacked black women for backing her up. We claim to be allies but this isn’t how allies act. Can anyone name a single time when gay and bi men actually listened to women?”