March 4, 2015
Ever wonder what it means to be genderqueer? Steph Parrish describes one genderqueer’s experience. Complete with frequently asked questions!
“To many, while extremely well-intended and well-meaning, telling them I identify outside the traditional gender binary and that I do not identify as a woman or a man, they kind of smile and nod like, “yeah, we get it, you’re a butch lesbian. You like to wear ties and men’s pants and boy’s shoes.. what’s the big deal?” I want to acknowledge the intention here and thank people for your sincere efforts to be supportive. … However, just like I get frustrated when people tell me they don’t think of me any differently for being gay because it erases and minimizes a significant and salient part of who I am, I don’t want to just be a butch lesbian to you because, well, I’m not…”