Hurtful Words Hurt

Posted June 12, 2015 by Marg Herder

It’s the 12th, and that’s the day I post on the Emerging Voices blog on Patheos.  Today I’m writing (again) about what I have termed the “newly discovered continent of violence” threatening our world.  

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Who has helped you utter these words?  And whose spirit spoke from your mouth?
(Job 26:4 NIV)

There are millions of new combinations of words created every day, combinations that are put here, on the web, for anyone to view. And there’s one thing that not enough people are concerned about, one thing we think can’t be helped, oneimportant thing about all those words.

A lot of them are hurtful. Some intentionally so.

Talking with my therapist Wednesday, I said, “I just don’t understand why I can’t get used to this, why it still hurts so badly.” (I was talking about the mean things some Christians were writing and saying about LGBTQ people in the wake of Tony Campolo’s statement.)

She said, “Hurtful words hurt.”

Hurtful words hurt.

She explained if I had stubbed my toe, I wouldn’t think it shouldn’t hurt. No matter that the thing I walked into had been there in the same spot for years and I’d stubbed my toe on it before; no matter that I might not have been paying attention to where I was walking; no matter that walking into it was my own doing. None of that would have made it hurt any less, nor made me think it shouldn’t hurt.

But I expect the hurtful words spoken by Christians who oppose LGBTQ equality to someday stop hurting me.

(Click here to read the rest of the article on Patheos.)

Lē Weaver identifies as a non-binary writer, musician, and feminist spiritual seeker. Their work draws attention to: the ongoing trauma experienced by women and LGBTQIA people in this “Christian” society; Christ/Sophia’s desire that each of us move deeper into our own practice of non-violence; and the desperate need to move away from an androcentric conception of God.


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